"Presence After Trauma" is the only self-help book that doesn't subtly or overtly give the tone of "you're broken, you need fixing." I have a bit of an addiction with self help books and this has been the one that I've been able to put into the most practice without feeling shame about myself. Sonia Connolly writes with a compassionate and empathetic tone, and matter of fact in advice. Advice giving is provisional and not dictatorial - she knows that everyone comes from different circumstances, has different goals and values. Sometimes self help books give advice that seems to be one size fits all, or is just another should to add to the list of what's wrong with you. This book doesn't do that 🙂
May 3, 2017
Wellspring of Compassion is a treasure. As a survivor of childhood sexual abuse, and recovering now as an adult, I find it extremely comforting and helpful. It is written in a gentle tone, has many helpful suggestions of exercises to do as well as explanations about trauma. I return to it again and again to help me with increasing self-care, self-compassion and extending kindness towards myself. I wholeheartedly recommend it as a validating and comforting healing companion that will help you to be kind to yourself as you heal from abuse.
December 3, 2016
I look forward to purchasing your new book soon and would like to say thank you for the ongoing support 'Wellspring of Compassion' has given me. I appreciate the gentle tone and it is really helping me to treat myself with greater self-care and to accept that this journey is life-long and that that is okay. Your words are so deeply authentic and I am feeling so much safer and learning a little more to find ways to love myself step by step. Exactly what I have needed. Heartfelt thanks and appreciation!
November 25, 2016
Your work is always helpful to me. It speaks volumes in a voice that I can hear well. I believe this is because you have done the work (or unlearned the toxic behaviours of our society) and there are no hints of influence from the toxic messages in your articles. I really appreciate that.
Your work is incredible! In all my experience in healing trauma, and psychological research I have never come across someone who has fully reflected on the power dynamics, double binds and group political factors that are the underlying narrative of trauma.
November 9, 2016
I just wanted to write and tell you how much I appreciate your newsletter and your book reviews. I find them very helpful and nuanced.
November 8, 2016
So grateful for your work and your insights. They've made a tremendous difference for me in my life. I am so grateful for you.
November 3, 2016
Something about your writing and delivery is like 100% daily requirement of every soul nutrient I need. It seeps right into every exact hungry malnourished part of me and I go, "Hm. Yes. Gentler with this sweet little self. I'm okay. I can set my boundaries and that's okay."
Thank you for your work in this world. It has literally and truthfully changed my life.
October 22, 2016
There has been a massive sense of self esteem and discovery of just who I actually am whenever I have received healing work from you. I've been going from strength to strength, a lot of that due to your skill and sensitivity around what works for me, particularly the cranial healing work I've undergone.
October 21, 2016
I always walk away from these sessions with tools I can use. You're amazingly intuitive.
October 20, 2016
Thank you so much for all of your support and insight. It's so incredibly helpful I can't even begin to tell you. Reminding me that this is all a part of integration has been really important in getting me out of the state and being able to have a witness and some ground in it all. I really appreciate the insight that being told that I'm being dramatic/acting crazy is bullshit because I was/am acting in response to abuse and pain.
September 24, 2016