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Acceptance

Topic: Acceptance

Respect Your Reservoir of Pain

Whether our pain is physical or emotional, chronic or acute, we encounter suspicion that we did something to deserve it or have not done enough to fix it, and if we just corrected our course the pain would disappear. Pain signals a problem Pain is the brain’s way of signaling a problem. The problem could… Read More

April 1, 2021 sonia

Topic: Acceptance

When I Started

Written for the anthology We Have Come Far: Shared wisdom from survivors of extreme trauma edited by Ani Rose Whaleswan, 2014. When I started healing from abuse, I was a grad student. After many years in school, I knew all about graduation requirements, prerequisites, and homework assignments. I tackled the project with youthful enthusiasm. Surely,… Read More

July 1, 2016 sonia

Topic: Acceptance

Worthy of Protection

When my friends entrust their two-month-old daughter to my arms, I feel instinctively, physically protective. My body wants to curl around her to keep her safe and well. I feel emotionally protective of people I mentor, wanting to metaphorically spread my arms wide and shield them from politics and ill-will. Feeling protective of them does… Read More

February 1, 2016 sonia

Topic: Acceptance

Take a Break from Healing

Have you thought about the finish line of your healing process? What would it take to declare yourself healed? What conscious and subconscious standards do you set for self-approval and time to rest in the present? Do you compare your insides to other people’s outsides? It is easy to believe that we have to keep… Read More

September 1, 2015 sonia

Topic: Acceptance

The Heartbreak of “Why?”

The question of “Why?” weaves over and under and through all the other reactions to trauma. Why did that happen? Why did it happen to me? Why didn’t anyone help? Why couldn’t I change it? “Why?” engages our spiritual beliefs about the world and our own worth. If we believe in a Higher Power, we… Read More

July 1, 2015 sonia

Topic: Acceptance

Integration: Live into Both/And

Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves, like locked rooms and like books that are now written in a very foreign tongue. Do not now seek the answers, which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. And the point… Read More

May 1, 2015 sonia

Topic: Acceptance

The Tyranny of Normal

When first remembering childhood abuse, many survivors mourn the loss of a “normal” past. Mainstream media sells us a vision of what our lives should be, and convinces us we are less-than if our lives are different. Even if we live in a home that embraces difference, we may feel shame when we venture outside…. Read More

December 1, 2014 sonia

Topic: Acceptance

Unhook from Projection

Beatrice’s reaction to hearing, “You’re controlling!” depends on her beliefs and assumptions. If she believes that controlling people are abusive and bad, she will react defensively, at least in the privacy of her mind. “I am not!” “No, you are!” “I don’t like you.” “If you think I’m controlling, there’s something wrong with me.” On… Read More

January 1, 2014 sonia

Topic: Acceptance

Achieve Approval

Trauma interrupts life’s narrative and bends its trajectory, challenging the illusion that our choices control every outcome. Mainstream society responds with victim-blaming, “You must have done something to cause it,” and continues with isolation and disapproval. “You don’t fit in well enough.” Instead of compassion, survivors receive subtle or overt messages about not measuring up,… Read More

June 1, 2013 sonia

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This practice is closed. Thank you to all the clients who have come in over the years. I appreciate your courage and trust. Click here for practitioner referral list. I am returning to my previous career of computer programming, and my previous home of Oakland, CA.

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