Some anniversaries are neutral. “Oh, that happened five years ago.” Some feel like an accomplishment. “Wow, I’ve had this job for three years already.” And then there are the ones that feel terrible. Trauma anniversaries might bring more abundant flashbacks and other PTSD symptoms. Anniversaries of loss might bring a resurgence of grief. We might… Read More
Trauma Effects, PTSD
Not Alone with Your ACEs
The ACE Study looks at the correlation between ACEs, or Adverse Childhood Experiences, and health. Between 1995 and 1997, 17,000 middle-income, college-educated adults with access to good health care in the US joined the study. They had a standardized physical exam and filled out a confidential survey with questions about childhood maltreatment and family dysfunction,… Read More
Name Memories Without Words
Infants are born with survival drives to learn about the world, and to bond with their carers. They absorb information with their whole bodies, gathering sensory impressions and learning basic skills of responsiveness and movement. Physical and relational lessons learned in infancy inform every moment of our lives. Infant nervous systems are not yet fully… Read More
Triggered! Now What?
A scent wafts by, or someone speaks certain words in a certain tone, or that time of year comes around again. Suddenly we are defiantly thirteen, or playfully four, or speechlessly afraid in situations where we would prefer to be competent adults. With awareness, we might be able to take back adult control, or we… Read More
Rest at Sleep’s Threshold
Disturbed sleep is a major symptom of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). Traumatized people struggle with the transitions into and out of sleep, as well as nightmares that can be traumatic in themselves. Lack of sleep further destabilizes the nervous system, making it harder to cope with and heal from other effects of trauma. Trying to… Read More
Exit Emergency Mode
Emergencies are loud, intense, exciting, chaotic. They demand our full, focused attention. When survival is at stake, there is no time for rest, repair, or pause for thought. The body goes into debt for energy, sleep, and nutrients, planning to make it up after the emergency is over. Ongoing emergency The essence of Post-Traumatic Stress… Read More
Relax For Your Life
Content Note: brief child rape example. Have you held a small child recently? Supported by trusted arms, small children rest with their whole weight, warmly present and relaxed. Over time, many of us lose the ability to relax into support, some gradually, some violently. During assault When a rapist commands, “Relax!” the assaulted child understands… Read More
Effects of Sexual Assault
Reading about sexual assault can be painful for survivors. If you find yourself feeling overwhelmed or dissociated, give yourself kind permission to take a break and do something you enjoy. This article describes effects of sexual assault, not assaults themselves. Responses to sexual assault range from severe trauma to shrugging it off. If you have… Read More
Safety in Your Bones
You are deep in conversation when someone unexpectedly taps your shoulder from behind. What do you do? Turn calmly to see who it is Duck away from the touch Turn sharply and grab the hand That would never happen because you always have your back to a wall Someone who feels safe and relaxed is… Read More
Frozen! Thaw from Surrender
Mei Lin, who hates having her hands touched, tensed as the massage therapist worked down her arm. She wanted to ask the massage therapist to stop, but her throat closed around the words. She wanted to pull away, but could not move. She struggled silently with her discomfort until the massage therapist moved on to… Read More